Dog euthanasia is difficult for any pet owner to endure. You’ve spent all those great times together, bonded, and suddenly you see it coming to an abrupt end. Of course you are sad and upset.
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When my first dog Nikki had to be put down, I couldn’t do it. My partner did it for me. I couldn’t even be there because it would have been far too painful. I’d spent 16+ great years with him. I didn’t ever want it to end. But here we were, facing the end of his life and I couldn’t be there for him.
This made it all the more painful for me today, because he was always there for me, through my divorce, mental distress and job loss – and a whole lot more. He was my child. Our bond was strong. After his death, I couldn’t get the vision out of my mind – even today. My partner had lifted him off the floor and as he carried him to the door for the last time, Nikki looked at me, I’d swear knowingly.
It’s a look I’ll never forget. Neither will I forget the pain of that time.
Dog euthanasia is a good thing, despite your pain
About 15 years later, when my next dog Cindy developed cancer and was extremely weak, it was obvious she wasn’t going to make it. As I transported her between the vet, the hospital and back to the vet over a few days, I knew. Moments after we got back to the vet and put her on the table, she began to fade. Her eyes were rolling up into her head.
The vet said she was going to give Cindy something so that she would be “more comfortable”. I immediately asked what, and that’s when she told me that she would put her to sleep. Of course I cried as I petted Cindy and assured her she would be okay, everything will be fine, just relax. I don’t know if she was aware of me or what I was saying. She just lay there.
The vet gave her the shot and seconds later, Cindy’s eyes glazed over. It was that fast.
But it was very peaceful. I had expected something horrible to happen to her as her body began to shut down… but it didn’t. She simply went to sleep. It was so easy that I couldn’t even tell she had passed. The vet assured me that she was gone.
A year later, it was Kobe’s turn. He was in severe distress because his organs were shutting down due to kidney failure. Well, he was 15, so he was reaching the end of his life, too.
When I saw how much he was panting and struggling to survive, I knew it was time. He lay on the floor of the cage. I sat on a cushion beside him and stroked him, calmly telling him to relax, it’s okay. Good boy, Kobe. He seemed to understand and in that moment, our complicated relationship changed to one of support and compassion. When he looked at me, it was as if he were letting me know that he understood.
The vet said we should let him go, because he was struggling and there really was no hope. I nodded in agreement. While waiting for her to return with the shot, I continued to pet Kobe. My respect for him changed drastically.
When she gave him the shot, like Cindy he just calmly stopped panting and rested his head on the blanket and quietly fell asleep. The vet listened for a few moments and is was merely seconds later, she confirmed that he was gone.
Now that I’ve experienced this twice, I only wish I’d been there for Nikki.
Dog euthanasia is not a horrible as you might think. It’s a very peaceful event. And if you watch the dog’s expression, you will see that he or she is finally at rest, free of the pain, anxiety and distress of disease.
It’s a matter of putting it into perspective. Your dog does not suffer. In fact, it will ease suffering when used to alleviate the distress of a sick and dying dog.
The important thing is to think not about yourself, but about your dog. Will he or she be better off? Will the pain and suffering stop? Will your dog be at peace, finally?
You will grieve, but knowing that your dog is in a better place and that you provided an easy way for him to get there will make the loss less painful for you.
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Hi Sallie,
I’m not vet trained or anything even close, but I tend to doubt that dementia and uti are connected but I suppose if the dog doesn’t acknowledge the need to urinate and holds it, it can certainly cause an infection. I suggest you look around this site: http://pets.webmd.com/dogs/guide/lower-urinary-tract-problems-infections-dogs . If that page is moved, go to http://pets.webmd.com/ and search for dog dementia and uti. I didn’t see anything to indicate they are connected, but it does say that older dogs over 5 years of age are more prone to uti. If your baby was 18, that’s a significant age for any dog. It’s highly likely she did have dementia as well.
Hi Sallie,
I am so sorry to hear about your puppy. I can totally relate to losing your baby. I was devastated for 4 years after the death of Nikki who, fortunately, was on his deathbed when they gave him the injection. Still, even though you know it’s best or that the dog was at the end of its life, it still hurts tremendously when they die. For years afterwards, I couldn’t talk about him without breaking up. In his case, he had kidney failure but he lived an extremely happy and healthy life for 15+ years. His disease lasted a short while, a few months or so. He was just 16 when he died. I got him when he was 5 weeks old so yes, he truly was my child as I have no other children.
my question was would dementia cause the uti in older dogs?
i was told my 18 year old shiba inu had dementia..i euthanized my baby girl june 2nd and one week later found out she had an untreated uti and all she needed was antibiotics.
she was my child in life…im a complete mess….
Clint,
It’s always heart-wrenching when your best friend dies. The whole idea of watching my dog die through euthanasia was far too horrifying for me, so I didn’t go. My partner, who happened to be someone my dog absolutely adored, was there so I knew he was in good hands with someone he trusted and made him comfortable. I’ve since kicked myself because the last image I have is of my partner carrying him out the door. Nikki kept looking back at me as if to say, “aren’t you coming?” Almost like he knew it would be the last time he’d see me. It makes me incredibly sad to even write this, and he died back in 1988. The pain never dies.
Sylvia
Totally agree. My biggest regret in life was that I didn’t have the guts to use the euthanasia option for my first dog who ended up suffering more than he should have and ended up dying at home, in pain. I didn’t want to make the same mistake with the second one and did the right thing although it would be my first experience. When my vet said that is was time because my second one was suffering, I didn’t hesitate but I insisted to be there. The staff allowed me to be in the room in private with my Max until we were ready – I think I took 20 -30 minutes private time before I called the vet in. The whole procedure was extremely faster than I thought. Within maybe 10-15 seconds, my Max was in dog heaven. This time, at least I know I did the best thing for my dog and wouldn’t hesitate to do this again for any dogs I currently have even though it’s not the best experience to go through.